It can become way too easy to assign blame in a relationship. The “you never” game is endless, when the truth is, both parties can be equally guilty. It’s also easy to assume that because “they never”, they don’t give a rats ass. While that can be true, either completely or partially, I think we will find most of us simply don’t consider doing or saying certain things. Of course, there can be a multitude of reasons, instead of unleashing all your grievances in the heat of an argument… perhaps bring it up when it crosses your mind. Start a calm conversation and work towards an understanding. Maybe even a solution.

I think we’ve all been in the situation where, we think everything’s fine because nothing’s being said. Then we’re blindsided, and we don’t know what to do with that information. We find out how annoying or shitty of a person they think we are. And for those who constantly tout how important communication is, you soon realize, they’re not doing much communicating themselves.

We all have moments of being selfish and inattentive to the needs of our loved ones. Don’t make the mistake of branding them the villian, when you can’t engage in productive dialogue. Yes, you need to carve out time to discuss your relationship and work towards bettering your lovely existence together.

Call when you say you’re going to call. If you’re long distance and didn’t make that night call you promised.. that’s a date. You stood them up, they missed out on sleep waiting on your dumb ass. You better text them first thing in the morning with the reason and an apology.

Follow through. If YOU suggest something or promise to do something.. do it. It’s not their responsibility to remind you 50 times. You brought it up, if you drop it, they assume you have better things to do. Obviously, life gets in the way… but come on. Get your shit together. If it can be done in that moment.. do it. Don’t wait for them to ask for a picture, send them that funny meme. You get it, right?

Everyone has their love language.. be sure to understand theirs. Express yours and find compromises so needs are being met.